E.I.G.H.T.L.E.S.S.

Weird title, it sees to be but it's a card game that one of our friends thought us. My friend Vijay was here for a brief period and he would visit us at times as he did not knew much people out here. This is the case with all those who come here for all people who come here for a short term...


It was christmas time and we had holidays written all over us - it was the start of the most laziest season of the year - the end of the year...

The end of year brought in a new start to my thinking process..... This game can be played best in a group of 6 or 8 divided into 2 teams. One of the team starts to take its turn of asking the cards from the other team..One player if the team would ask for a card that he is interested provided he has a card of that group with him.. There are a lot of rules to it and teams take their turn to forma major or a minor group to win points..... It was then when thoughts started striking to reveal its resemblance to life..

We take our turns to ask people for what we want (directly or indirectly) to fulfill our wishes and dreams and what not... It becomes a habit and as in the game we take more risk to win more points... It boils down to how much you are willing to take a risk and every minute of it looks like the next moment it would be someone else who would snatch everything from us...

But, when its our own turn we start asking for everything and anything possible.... but 4 things that people forget,

1. they can ask for what they deserve - similar to the way how you can demand for a card only if you have another card of the same group....

2. we always tend to forget that we have limits of our own and there are others as well who deserve more or in a darker sense - some are ready to stamp us and move forward if we do not deserve it or actaccordingly... - similar to the formation that a person can have just 8 or 6 cards only at the start in a group of 6 0r 8...

3. in between taking risks one need to understand that there is a thin line between a minr and a major group and the risk is double that we take... - take risks or brave steps forward only when you are sure of achieving of it rather than just stamping on a pothole filled with water during a rainy season.... - similar to the way that there is a difference between the major and the minor group and the major group has double the points than the minor...

4. everyone when playing this game of eightless forget that the game gives all of its fun when something called the number 8 is sacrificed.... - synonymous to the sacrifices we or our dear ones do in our life to remain happy and enjoy our life...

Happiness... V2.0

Continuing from the last blog...

Moving on to see/analyse what happiness is from a different perspective...

As a child happiness to me always meant a bar of chocolate or a small candy would also do.. I grew up and at a teen age my happiness was satisfied by a good movie, a good evening with friends or a good outing on a weekend... More...I grew up and started working and now my happiness is not satisfied even if I get a handsome salary to survive.. I need more!

So where is the same old person whose satisfaction was just a bar of chocolate and today a good handsome salary does not satisy him... The hidden word here is need...

I have always felt that your need goes up the more you see the world and nderstand it;know it better.

Just to clarify more on this point - A guy of my age who has been through to many places and has known so many things and understood them would not be happy with even 5 times of my salary! Why ?

Because he knows things and understands them and has the knowledge that he can aim for more..

To the best of my knowledge I know that my handsome salary is what I will get for my work... But to the knowledge of the other guy he knows that there are better things that he can aim and hope for for the same level is mine... I am not arguing here that I am getting a low salary..This is just an example to explain that your complete satisfication of your needs is what brings happiness to you.

True satisfaction of one's self is what i would term to be happiness.. Importantly, immaterial satisfaction and thereby complete and true happiness is achieved..

H.A.P.P.I.N.E.S.S

Now here I am to write about happiness ..
I was just a bit happy after a long term of brutal sadness..So yeah forget all that has passed by and go ahead...

What does happiness signify to one ? OR more ...
When does one say he is happy ?
Let's see...
Whenever you feel whatever you expect or something better than that has happened, we feel contented..
If something happens which we were not expecting then there is something missing in our heart...We feel uncomfortable and discontented...

Now take the key words - contended and discontended from these sentences above - so it all ends up how you feel at your heart and how full do you feel to yourself..

If suppose, we are content with or adjust and try to be contended with all that we have then that would mean we are happy or atleast trying to be happy...

Live every moment of life as if it is your precious one (I won't say live it like the last moment)...
Count the amount of precious moments you have had in your life and then try to map it how happy you have been in your life..They would be the same.. Treat every moment of your life as the most precious ones...When you treat them so - you feel contended - the base for happiness!

Enjoy every preious moment of your life, especially times which we have longed for - you never know how long they will stay - or for a matter of fact - will they stay ?

more on this ..... coming up......

Hard times

Its often the hard times that brings out the best in everyone.

We often face hard times and these are the times where we need to get up, stand tall, and say 'I can!'.

Most of the times and most of the people fall prey to themselves. Its their right to stand up and fight against it! But to their plight, people don't. The feeling of being let down or lost brings out emotion of us.. It shows the care and love and what not you had had for those times...

When time runs with us we seem to be living our life at the fullest and when it is against us, it is then that we feel torn and lost....

Fear not my brother, thy shall help you - Bull shit!!!

It's your life and you live it on your terms..No one will come down to wipe your tears. Learn to be stiffer when the tide is high... The strongest of the ships are the ones which have held fort during the worst tides..

It is for these reasons that we need support from people during hard times who help us to come through it....You need hands to bring up the sail to sail through the rough sea... Like sea, life would often throw up challenges to test YOU...

Put an end to all of it! As time passes, it all will be history..Yesterday's present will be tomorrow's history and tomorrow's history is today's present..

Life will always unfold new challenges against us but to tackle it and to come through it is a mark of a man who learns from it rather who loses from it....

Life's mysteries teaches us so many things - about people - in particular.. Learn them and inculcate them in you to become a better human being!!

Learn to live in your life and not to let live life in you...

"Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hold onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today ? " - Anonymous

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Life - Always been a question mark - ?

I rather have wondered all my life on how 'life' is!!! People with so very different views, size, shape and all other differentiations one can make! I am amazed at such a varied creation of the Almighty. I think how He would have thought to think like this. People's feelings, their views on others, their behaviours and how they are, for the simple reason - they have to live because they have taken birth. . . .

Each and every one's life is so very different - one moment of happiness is a moment of despair for the other. I see so many thing daily describing this. . . One of my friend was happy just because his friend was in trouble. I wonder why ? I still don't know the reason why was he happy? How could one be happy when the other is finding difficult to live his life - which he has the right to !

Just because one does not like the other or he hates the other person I see so many variations on the behavior of people. I remember my school days when my friends went for a movie and a few were left out simply for the reason that they did not like them !! Guess what??? They were going for a farewell party with the whole class.. I simply could not digest that.

You do as others want you to, but you don't, and others simply don't like that ! Really weird!
One does what he wants to - why should he do as you like it??

Contrastingly I see another group of people where they do as others want it, simply for the reason that they like them !
I see so many guys doing crazy things for their girls simply because they like them - TRUE!
No one can really shy away from this fact.
Not only guys for girls, for that fact, I have seen people living for others for their whole life!
Here, Thus, I see so many differences amongst people in just one characteristic of a person that he likes or not the other one!

Now when I sum up the differences that I see, I feel, I hear about people and more and more things - I see a Mt.Everest placed glaring at me where I could find so many different things differing in them!!